Beth says, "I returned to my pre-pregnancy size within a month of giving birth and came away with no stretch marks. But my friend who had a baby around the same time I did is struggling with extra weight and has new scars all over. She constantly compares our bodies when we're together, and it's putting a strain on our friendship. How can I ease this uncomfortable situation?"Do you have advice for Beth? To share your two cents, scroll down to the comments box below. What BabyCenter readers say:
"Friends are hard to find these days, especially true friends. My advice is to tell your friend that you both just did an amazing thing with your body and produced a beautiful baby. It will take time for her body to recover and it probably will not look the same as it did before the baby. I just had my third child and I still have ten pounds to lose. It doesn't bother me b/c I am so happy with the children I have, that to me, it was definitly worth it!!!"-- Mom of 3 "My son is now almost 5 months old and I have 2lb left to lose - which may not seem a lot but it's taken a lot of effort. The only way I have found to get rid of the pounds is to eat properly and exercise hard! Fortunately I have a gym which provides day care so I can leave him while I exercise for an hour or so. How about you sitting for your friend so that she can go and exercise (it doesn't have to be in a gym - a fast walk will get her started or using a video)? Have lunch with her and encourage her to eat properly. It may be annoying for you that she's comparing, but she's obviously suffering from low self esteem as we all do after having a baby, so you need to be the one to boost her. Tell her how well she's doing already but help her see that she's the only one who can put it right. If she really wants to, she can get back into shape, it just takes a lot more effort for some people."-- Anonymous
source- babycenter.com
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